Passing of friends

Nov 03, 2009

So on Halloween I went down to see Melly, Guy and Wendy in Albuquerque. We met at Guy and Wendy's restaurant (btw, KICK ASS BBQ) and we visited for a while. Much of the conversations seem to drift to  toward the subject of Mike's trajic passing and Elena's subsequent hospitalization. It has been a sad time on the OH SBA board and on Facebook with the loss of Mike (Skulldoctor). We sat on Saturday remembering our encounters with Mike and the in-person teddy bear he was, Melly spoke of the first time she met him and how the place wouldnt allow trucks to park.

I can honestly say I miss Mike, he made me laugh, smack hand against my forehead thinking oy vey, and feel appreciated. I know he has found peace and is no longer hurting. He has left many with fond memories of meetings, words of advice (as Unidos spoke about) and some in total bewilderment of his personality.

Elena, Stephanie and Tammie have experienced a great deal over the last week or so. I heard that Elena was having difficulties and that she was seeking help for them and this made me happy. The strength of these three women is unmistakeable and my hat is off to them. The pain of this event will slow subside over time but it will never truly go away. It is like loosing a parent/sibling/child the pain is unbarable and never goes away.  Grief councilors are wonderful and they help more than many know or care to acknowledge. Even just talking to others is a way of dealing with the loss. Not getting help will just prolong the pain and suffering.  It has been six years since the loss of my brother and it feels as though it was just yesterday that it happened.

Anyhow, I had a ball hanging out with Guy, Wendy and Miss. Melly and I cant wait to do it again.

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