Kimberlee M.
We're still meeting
Dec 29, 2017
Yikes, has it really been this many years since I've done a blog post? Apparently so. The support group still meets on the 3rd of the month at the Alameda Hospital. Attend when you can. Add the meetings to your calendar so you don't book yourself elsewhere.
Pat ourselves on the back: 12th anniversary
Mar 14, 2013
I hope that many of you will be able to join us on Saturday, March 16, because our group will hit one heck of a milestone: our 12th anniversary. I am amazed I gotta confess. My surgery was 12 years ago on March 6. At the time when I was pre-op, my doctor wanted me to find a support group but back then the only one in the Bay Area that I could attend met on Tuesdays at 6 p.m. in Walnut Creek (I was in Alameda so getting there from work on time in rush hour traffic would have been close to impossible).
Taking her advice to heart, I somehow got it in my head "well, I'll just start my own!" Knowing that hospitals provide free space for health-related groups, I contacted my uncle who was Chief of Surgery at San Leandro Hospital for help. It must have been fate because the person he put me in touch with was their community relations person who had a gastric bypass a year earlier! She was a great resource for me and helped get our group off the ground.
We met at San Leandro once a month on Saturday until this past December 2011 when they surprisingly tossed all of their support groups from the hospital due to staff training. So much for community relations, but I digress.
Thankfully, Alameda Hospital had a weekend meeting space and so in January 2012 we began meeting there with great success and attendance.
I am very grateful to both hospitals for providing the free meeting space to us and to all the hundreds of people that have attended our meetings, whether it was for just one meeting for several, you helped keep us going.
Congratulations members,
Kimberlee
What my 6th wedding anniversary also represented
Feb 13, 2013
Ok, so hitting a 6th wedding anniversary probably isn't a big deal, but something struck me that morning that I thought I'd share with you: I weigh what I weighed on my wedding day.
Although I'm heavier than I would like to be (gee, who doesn't say that), a light bulb went off overhead that while I'm not gaining, I'm maintaining and that's worth celebrating. To weigh basically the same for 6 years should be something to celebrate. While I did have a child (gained 48 there) and it took two years to get that pregnancy weight off, being able to wear the same clothing size is a moment to celebrate and an example of progress. I didn't realize that something like that could be important or could be worth noting. Now that I think about it, it sure feels like quite the accomplishment.
I bring this up because, as serial dieters, we spend out life looking at the scale hoping for it to go down without every pausing to enjoy when it stays the same. I don't know about you but I need to start grasping that maintenance is something worth cheering about to.
Happy Maintenance,
Kimberlee
Announcing our New Email Reminder Notification System
Dec 21, 2012
At some point in November, our e-mail listserv, Topica.com, decided to simply stop sending our messages to you. Our November and December meetings weren't canceled, you just didn't get the reminder notice I mailed. Argh.
We are, therefore, switching to MailChimp.com. You should received an announcement if you were in our Topic-based list. E-mail me if you didn't get it. Thank you for your patience while we searched for a new system to communicate with you.
January 19th is the date of our next meeting.
See you there,
Kimberlee
East Bay Bariatric Support Group
Happy 10th Anniversary Support Group
Mar 15, 2011
Congrats to us on continuing to attend our meetings all these years. Our group exists because of you.
Thanks
From today's meeting: how I've changed...
Jan 15, 2011
~ I no longer hate myself.
~ I no longer see myself as a fat slob, a loser, unloveable, or undeserving of happiness.
~ I volunteer because I want to support that organization or cause and not so they will "like the fat girl."
~ When I was dating post-op, I was more selective of who I dated, whereas, pre-op if any Schmo gave me the time of day I would have skeptically accepted because "who else would want me," but pre-op dating was very rare.
~ I look in the mirror now and see a beautiful person. Pre-op, I avoided mirrors or would look at the image in one in disgust.
~ I am satisfied with one or two pieces of pizza. Pre-op, I would "need" to eat a whole large one.
~ Pre-op, I would not leave the grocery store without buying at least one container (often 4) of Ben & Jerry's. Post-op, I honestly can't tell you the last time I bought one or any ice cream. Years and years, probably 9 or since the moment I became a Post-op person.
I'm not "as much" of an emotional eater as I was pre-op because my tummy won't let me so I actually have to deal with the issues more now instead of reaching for food to comfort, numb and avoid the issue.
~ I can sit in a booth in a restaurant...and often ask to sit in one now!
~ I can attend events that have food at them and not be concerned that the Food Police is keeping a tally of what I eat. I can relax and actually enjoy myself and the company there, whereas, pre-op I probably would have avoided such a function.
~ I have confidence and pride in myself and I definitely didn't have either one pre-op.
~ I often smile when I put clothes on because the number is much smaller than what it used to be. Whereas, pre-op I felt shame and sadness at having to put on clothes that were a 30-32/4XL.
~ I really changed in that I opened up myself to the belief that someone could truly love me and want to marry me. Pre-op, I would have pushed my husband away if he were trying to date me as I wouldn't have trusted his intentions because "why would he be interested in the fat girl?"
~ I now want to be with my family, whereas, pre-op I often avoided them so I could avoid the stares or the natural conversation topic typical of my grandmother of "here's the latest diet..." or "you should lose 50 pounds..." I just avoided putting myself in that situation.
~ If I went to a bakery, pre-op I would order a cake and have them write like "Happy Birthday Betty" on it so they wouldn't think it was all for me and now if I actually went to a bakery (not sure the last time I even walked into one), I would order just a piece of something to enjoy shame-free like one cookie or one cupcake.
~ I do not go to fast food restaurants or drink soda now and I definitely did pre-op. Drive-thru was a my friend because I would think that if I sat in the car and ordered, the person at the window couldn't really see how fat I was. But duh, that person is looking down at me and can probably see my entire body!
It was nice to reflect on these changes on the drive home. I hope they will help you and help you see changes that you make on your journey. Jotting this down really reminded me that I'm in a much better and happier place than I was a decade ago thanks to weight loss surgery.
Have a good month,
Kimberlee
9th anniversary came and went
Mar 09, 2010
Our 9th anniversary is upon us
Mar 04, 2010
Hard to believe that (1) in mere days I will be celebrating my 9th anniversary as a post-op WLS person (March 6) and (2) this month celebrates the 9th anniversary of the founding of East Bay Bariatric. Has it really almost been a decade?
Many times over the years I have forgotten it was my WLS anniversary. Who knew that was possible.
If you can, please try super hard to attend our March 20 meeting to celebrate together on our group surviving 9 years. So many groups have come and gone during that time, but we're still here...and here for each other.
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!
For our February meeting
Feb 16, 2010
See you at the meeting,
Kimberlee
We're the largest group in the state!
Feb 12, 2010
We are also in the Top 10 for most members nationwide which is a tremendous accomplishment too because the groups that have more members than us are nationwide groups (i.e., Men's Group, addictions), not a local one like us. Be proud of joining and what you have contributed to this group.
As you can see, I've been away for months now so thanks for dealing with my absence. I hope to be a more active leader on this page. Post some updates and light a fire on that discussion board. It's your group too.
Hugs to you all,
Kimberlee