Just a mini rant.....
Anyway...my surgeon's office told me to establish a relationship with this person before surgery because I expressed my fears of having depression and possibly other mental issues after surgery. She even gave me this person's number (which wasn't on the list of people to call) and recommended her especially.
Today this lady finally calls.....and can't meet any of the times of my bundled appointments. She wants me to change all the other appointments to suit her schedule. When I said no, I'd rather not, she had the nerve to ask me WHY??!! She was kind of a wench about it.
So - no matter how highly recommended this lady is, I've decided to pick someone else from the list. How would I ever relax around her to share my innermost thoughts about surgery and all the other stuff? I don't open up easily. I'm the type that builds walls and only lets my most trusted friends and my husband inside my emotions and thoughts.
Thanks for letting me share my frustration.
Hugs and blessings ~~~ Vivian
GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CAN NOT CHANGE; COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS THAT I CAN; AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE !!!! THIS IS MY DAILY PRAYER.
Vivian Prouty Obesity Help Support Group Coach "LOSE IT 4 LIFE"
It's a shame that it was such a confrontational beginning... I hope she is not that way with all of her clients! (Personally, I am always a bit leery of counselors who work out of their homes anyway, and will not refer clients that I cannot work with for whatever reason to anyone who does so.)
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
I saw a psychologist for a while that had an office in her home. She was an older woman, and was semi-retired or something. Only saw a few patients anymore. Her office was in the basement of her home but it had a separate entrance. I didn't have to walk through her living room or anything.
She also did not have a separate phone number for her office. Her number was her home phone. If I was a counselor, I would not want my clients to have my home phone number. Well, maybe a couple, but then I would give that to them if I thought it was appropriate. I sure wouldn't want all my clients having my home number.
Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
YOU are paying her bills, why should YOU rearrange your life to fit into hers??? Mostly likely her scheduling conflicts involve her riding her motorcycle, sailing her yacht or spending time in her second home in another countries because you KNOW you pay enough ;)
And, I also agree that I wouldn't want to work out of my home or give my home number. I am a teacher, and I never call student's parents from my home/cell phone number. That can be inviting trouble.
So today, I'll go through the list and pick someone else. Thanks again for the responses. Good to know I wasn't over reacting. I sometimes do that.
Kristina
You know, if you don't like a counselor or just don't feel like they are a good fit for you, for any reason, you can find someone else. You don't even need a reason you can put your finger on. Counseling won't be real successful unless you feel comfortable.
Now, if you talk to or visit a dozen counselors and don't like any of them, that's a different issue. Some people build up these unrealistic expectations or they come up with something they don't like about every counselor they see because they are afraid to get into counselor or seomthing like that. That's a different matter. But in general, if someone rubs you the wrong way, for any reason, move on.
Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.