New to Group

Hi everyone, I am new to this group. I have been in the Ontario Forum for quite awhile and my surgery is coming up in Feb.  I'm pretty nervous and scared about the surgery. I have read some stories about people getting the gastric bypass in the 50+ BMI. Can anyone enlighten me on issues they had and/or didn't have?

I'm a sleever, but just wanted to say WELCOME! I've had great success - and lots of trip ups too. Biggest piece of advice? Seek mental health counseling if you need it. I didn't think I did. Ha! Best decision I've ever made, even more than the surgery. I didn't get to be 375 pounds because I was hungry.

The surgery definitely "fixed" my stomach... buit it took therapy to fix my head.

Either way... you'll do great! It's life changing and quite a ride!

My RNY was 4.33 years ago. My highest BMI was 53 and now it's 21. I have had no issues.

Try to relax. If things are tough at first, just know that they do get better. I think of myself as eating like an average thin person now. Life is good!!

Hi Trish,

I'm a sleever that started out with a 56 BMI. There are lots of RNY people here on this forum who can advise you.

Welcome. This is a great group of people for support, advice and knowledge.

We are saving you a place on the loser's bench.

Congrats,

Sharon

The losers bench.....lmao  That's the first time that I have heard of that bench as a good thing to be on!!!

Thanks for the advise ladies!!  I think looking into getting some head advice is a great idea!!!

I've been heavy all my life and kids were really cruel growing up.  I've had allot to deal with over the years that has contributed to my weight gain.  Stress is a huge factor too!!  I always have too much on my plate and I don't mean food....lol

It very important that get emotional help for the emotional abuse suffered as young adult.   Words do hurt.  Cruelty and stress suffered because, Of our weight.  It important to you learn to love yourself and forgive yourself and others. You weight was not something you could control.  Some  people can.  Some people can,t. I lived on diets for years and still weighed 395 pounds at my highest weight.   Forgiveness seem impossible.  I been made fun by not just by  the kids but, the teachers  and adults as well.  I had young and old people who should know better make hateful commits.  When every hating on you it hard to even learn to like yourself.   The surgery is the easy part.  Learning to around people and trust people is what is hard.  All of a sudden you lost weight and people who never would have given you the time of day.  When were fat want to talk to you.  You  need to learn to deal  with your anger and emotions in a healthy way.  Face it . This world sucks.  When your fat learn  to Judge person by their heart and not their looks.  I just wish rest of the world could see things that way.  Your a good person with wonderful heart.  You have good things to look forward too.  Look me up[any time you need to talk.  It took years for me to get out of depression from the emotional abuse suffered from when was a child and young adult. It not some you just get over with over night.  If you need some one to talk look me up.

Hi! I had bmi over 50. Surgery was 2.5 months ago. Didnt have a single problem during surgery or my hosptial stay. Also haven't had problems since I've been home. Stay relaxed and I wish you luck!

seams like a lot of surgeons are recommending  the sleeve for there larger patients especially  if most of your weight in on your belly

thats what mine wants to do for me after I lose about 30 more lbs  he says it is much safer surgery with less side effects

 with about the same weight lose ,just a little slower

I had RNY gastric bypass 12-15-10. My weight was 654 lbs. My BMI was over 100. My surgery was great, no issues with it. However I have a genetic blood disorder and so am a bleeder. So having to deal with that I have done well! I would advise you follow your doctors advice. Have lots of patience in your journey as it will be a lot longer than those generally who have smaller BMI's. JOURNALING has helped me with seeing my eat intake and exercise burn. Having a great amount of supports around you also... Not just friends and family but people that are going through similar things! Like OH!! This is a great forum. And WELCOME!!!!

Hugs,
Sherrie

Love being a winner on this side of the losers Bench!

Sherrie, thank you so much for your understanding. Your weight loss is truly inspirational!!

How are you feeling now? How are you maintaining your weight loss now?