Questions that you are embarrassed to ask?

Hi Everyone,

I wrote this sometime ago and post it every now and then because someone out there may be experiencing some of these things.

Sometimes there are things that you may think you are the only one that this is happening to. So I thought I would write about a few things that happened to me along my journey of losing 105 pounds. 

My first shock was that about 2 months after having sleeve surgery I notice that when I got out of the shower I would find quite a bit of my hair in the drain screen. I thought to myself I already have thin hair what am I going to do if I keep losing more hair? Well, I did and it was difficult to try to spread my already thin hair all over my head. So I started asked question to people on this board. And guess what there were a lot of people who had lost some of their hair after surgery—not that it made me feel a whole lot better, but I wasn’t alone.

I learned that this is pretty normal to loose hair with rapid weight loss or some type of surgery. Then my next question was will it grow back?????—they all assured me it would, but when you have thin hair you don’t really don’t like the bald spots on your head. So, my answer was to get 2 really cute wigs close to my own hair color. Hardly anyone knew I had a wig, because it was close to my own hair style. Lots of people on this site had all kinds of theories about how to stop the hair loss and what to do. 

For me I found that Nioxin Shampoo and Cream rinse worked well. Most good hair salons sell this shampoo or you can order in on line too. I felt I had a much healthier scalp after using it. I am not saying it stopped my hair loss. I am just saying I felt it gave me a healthy scalp for my hair to return. I also take the supplement Biotin. You can find it with the Vitamins and I still take it. It helps with hair and nails. Both of which I need. I don’t think there is any cure for hair loss, but just time. My hair stopped falling about 6 months after the surgery and then I noticed it started coming back in.

 For me; my hair had fully returned about a year from the surgery. So I wore my wigs for quite awhile—about 6 months. The most unusual part of my hair coming back in was that it was now very curly—and I had pencil straight hair before. I HATED this curly hair, and I had to learn to deal with it. I am about 19 months from surgery and finally my hair isn’t so curly and it has a lot of nice body to it and I enjoy what I have because it is much easier to manage. It feels thicker now too. So don’t panic or get scared if your hair falls out, this is normal.

Not everyone will lose hair, but some of us have.  

My next challenge was constipation. When you eat protein you tend to have constipation. I tried different products for this and the one I have found that works best for me is Miralax. I buy the store band at Costco because it cost less. It works really well for me, and I just mix it in with my Protein drink every morning and I have NO problems with constipation anymore. 

Walking also helps with constipation. I was embarrassed to ask people on the board about constipation. I thought I was the only one who was having this issue then I found out a lot of people were having these issues. I also eat Almonds and that seems to help me too.   

We have talked a little or a lot about “slimming or flemming" In case you missed it, when you first start eating regular food you have to re-learn how to eat again and chew. With you new stomach you will need to take small tiny bites and chew until the food in your mouth is almost liquid like. This is nothing like what you had been doing your entire life. In the past you eat and talk and put big bite in your mouth along with a few chews and then swallowing—this will NO LONGER WORK FOR YOU. 

This is a very difficult thing to change. So with you new stomach and just having surgery you may experience slimming or flemming. First you will feel like the food is stuck, then it comes back up in a clear liquid –your saliva. It isn’t vomit, so that is why it is called slimming or flemming. It’s a wake up call to slow down you eating and chew, and chew and chew some more. Just go to the bathroom or have a napkin ready for the slimming or flemming. 

If you try to overeat—which is bad you may experience this too sometimes. For me it was always about not chewing enough. When I am full I know I am, at first I wasn’t sure, but sometimes I just got tired of all the chewing, so I stopped eating. I now get the hiccups or my noise will start to run when I am full. I know that other people have said they experienced this too.   

For the new people or people who are thinking of having Weight Loss Surgery, I want you to know that I wouldn’t trade one of these things that happened to me for the wonderful new healthy body I now have and how happy I am. 

It is ALL worth it. It has made me a much better person. I have been where you are starting and I want you to know that this is the last and final thing that you will ever have to go through. If diet and exercise worked for everyone we wouldn’t consider weight loss surgery.  

If you want to lose the weight it will happen with good eating habits and some exercise. I will not just melt off of you. This is your new tool to allow you to get where you want to do. You have to put some effort yourself. This site is great for support and questions. So jump in and join us. We are all regular people in different stages of weight loss.   

Hugs

Hey babygirl!  I know your heart is to be crazy helpful, but as another human with a penchant for incredibly long posts - folks who see long posts in general tend to blow them off and when they are long posts with no paragraphs, you really get blown off!!

Thanks for sharing your story and your knowledge!  It would be a bummer for your good hard work to not be as helpful as it can by the addition of a few paragraphs!

Signed,

Another chick with many words so share. :}

Hi,

I appreciate you comments, and you are so right I am sure.  It really will be up to them, like you said to figure out if they need or want the information. 

I will repost one of these day the condensed version..LOL  I really appreciate your note you are fabulous too!

Hugs,

Well, I would be lying if I said I were a fan of condensed versions.  I figure - answer all the questions they can throw at you the first time and then they can come up with new and improved questions!  :} 

Thank you girlie!  Rock on, us!

Hi,

Thanks I will work on a condensed version soon.  I do get that not everyone wants to wade through all that.

Hugs,

Suzanne

I hope you did not think I was being snarky, because I sure was not!  I really *DO* think that as much information as you can pack in the first time is good!   I just *REALLY* have had folks say to me, "I did not read your stuff for the first x period of time because they were so long until" .... the one time that the situation really pertained to them or something. 

I see that you are not very familiar with me (and there's sure no reason you ought to be) but me fussing at somebody that their posts are too long, well that is outright laughable! 

Pot!  Kettle! BLACK!! 

Information is always good girlie!  I really do thank you for sharing!

 I read every word.  Very helpful.

Supergroovy!  You should let the OP know! 

Hi,

Thanks for reading every word of it.  I know it is long, I will work on making it shorter for those who don't want to read a book.  LOL

Congratulations on your success and keep up the good work.

Hugs,
Suzanne

When you re post it and have broken up that long ass paragraph. I would like to read it.