Question:
Any Post ops at goal weight discouraged with society?
I am watching Ananda on TV and I am really upset at what I'm hearing. I have lost 180 lbs and am a size 8/10 now. According to the entertainment/fashion industry I am still plus size!!! I feel like I have come so far and am happy with me- which I know is whats truly important...but all my life I wanted to be looked at by soceity as normal. Now I finally feel normal and thought I had arrived and now I find that I haven't~~ I am still plus size! Does anyone else feel the pressure- of even as far as we have come that we will still never be small enough? — Stephanie E. (posted on August 14, 2002)
August 14, 2002
Don't be so hard on yourself. You are doing great and I am sure you look
great. You are comparing yourself to the anorexic chicks that are on the
sitcoms. They do not look healthy and I am sure most of them are not. Just
enjoy your size and know that you have come along way. I will be lucky to
ever get in a size 10 but am hoping and that will make me happy. Don't let
that nonsense get you down. Compare yourself to normal everyday people and
you will see that size is 8-12. You are doing just fine. Congratulations
on the weight loss. RK
— Robin B.
August 14, 2002
NOT ME! I am very happy in an 8. I am the same size as Catherine Zeta-Jones
(who is beautiful!) and a size smaller than Kate Winslet (ditto!). I am
healthy and well proportioned. The skinnie-minnies at work tell me I look
great. The fashion industry has operated on a platform of denial for years.
Supermodels are NOT the norm. The average woman is about 5'5" tall and
a size 12 or 14. If you get discouraged, go to a large public place and sit
in one place for a while. Look at how many women are bigger than you and
how many are smaller. I'll bet you that a lot more of them are bigger. Now
have someone trusted point out a person who is similar to you in size and
body type. I'll bet they look GREAT! Now kwitcher worryin' and go out and
enjoy being a skinnie-minnie! =)
— ctyst
August 14, 2002
I'm not at goal yet but I just wanted to add my 2 cents worth! Do you
really want to compare yourself to those fake boobs skeletal women?
Ewwwwww! If not, then please don't be upset & discouraged over it.
It's not worth comparing yourself to people who get paid to eat 2 celery
sticks a day (if they eat at all?). Be happy with your own accomplishments
and good health! That's the best we can strive for. :o)
— Jennifer A.
August 14, 2002
The women in magazine ads are put through something called a sci-tex (sp?)
machine which elongates them and makes them look thinner. And with
TV..think of all the 'magic' they can do. The previous poster is correct,
they are NOT the norm (and of course big fake boobies make them look
thinner). I am 5'10", 198 pounds and in a size 14. I am so thrilled..I
don't care if I get any smaller. People say that I am 'normal' now, and
that's the way I feel. Society has so much wrong with it...and I guffaw at
8/10 being plus-size....puh-leeeeese, how can they say that? That's part of
the reason I watch nothing but Nickleodeon and CNN. :)
— Jennifer G.
August 14, 2002
— Jennifer Y.
August 14, 2002
8/14/02
My favorite answer has to be, due to changing size guidelines, Marilyn
Monroe was a size 12 back in the day, and would be considered a size 8
today, the same size as you. Whose size would you rather wear, an anorexic
model's or Marilyn Monroe?
— Grace H.
August 14, 2002
I wqonder if this unreasonable standard causes MO in young girls? We all
know dieting causes long term weight gain... Society has girls pressed to
diet. MO is now at runaway rates. I think theres a sad connection...
— bob-haller
August 14, 2002
Are you are saying your "happy with me" but some Amanda (sorry
don't know who she is) decides what's norm or what's acceptable and now
your NOT happy with you? Think back 180 pounds ago, would you be elated if
you were a size 8/10? Would you think this was the ultimate in goals? Don't
let someone elses opinion rob you of your happiness. You are a dream come
true and have to tune out anyone that says your not.
— ZZ S.
August 14, 2002
If size 8 is fat, then call me tubby!!! How come when I now go to buy my
size 8 clothes, the majority of the clothes on the rack are sizes 14, 16
and 18?? I can hardly ever find a size 8 on the rack. All of the clothes
on the rack are too BIG!!! Trust me, a size 8 is NOT big and I'm content
to be in it. Hopefully in another month or so, I'll be down to a size 6
which is also another impossible clothing size to find. Remember, stores
but clothes based on supply and demand so there must be a heck of a demand
for sizes 14 through 18.
— Patty H.
August 14, 2002
At 350lbs and wearing a size 28 to 32, how I wish I was a size 14, 12, 10,
etc. I am "DYING" to get where you are. As the song goes,
"Don't worry be happy", and remember where you are coming from.
Congratulations on your weight loss. :)
— sharon E.
August 16, 2002
heck no! Size 8/10 is NOT plus size!
— Bambi C.
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