Question:
I have been so down on myself this week, I am 6 weeks before surgery...
and I have been so down on myself this week. Even though I have been over weight for the last 10 years, I feel like I have always tried to have a good outlook on life. I always try to be happy and OK with myself. I am not saying that I have ever been thrilled with my weight, I of course have done every diet and really tried to lose over the years, to only regain. Now that I have a date and I know that I WILL LOSE and keep it off, I feel terrible about myself. I can't stand to look at myself in the mirror, and every article of clothing that I own seems to bother me in some way. I get dresses and think that I look bad, or that the clothes are too tight and so on. I know that some of this is due to the fact that I am so focused on my weight and my self image right now, but am I letting this go over board? Has anyone else experienced these kinds of feeling? — poohdotsmom2 (posted on October 27, 2002)
October 27, 2002
dear misty
don't be hard on yourself you know what I did to change the way I thought
about my self I join wls support group at my hospital and they changed me
big time now am excited and am happy and I even went shopping for new
clothes smaller than the ones I can wear I think that should help you.
Sometimes we need a buddie who is going thru the same things as we so we
can see things a little differently. My support group is great they were
there for me when I cryed and when I found out my surgery date is on the
04-nov-2002 peace be with you live long and prosper. (sorry silly) I just
want you to be happy.
— sheri B.
October 27, 2002
I was there! I am 9 days pre-op and I understand. Boy, I hated the mirror,
I hated myself for letting this get "so out of hand" - I hate
(still do) everything in my closet- too tight, too (fillin the blank)- But
I kept my eye on that date- I can make it one day at a tme was my daily
wish.
But I am here to tell you that you are normal - just like the rest of us
and what you are doing for yourself takes great courage. You are not your
body size! You are you and your body size is going to get better and your
health will be better. And you will rejoice!
— Jan S.
October 27, 2002
You can't do anything about yesterday--it's gone. You can't do anything
about tomorrow--it's not here yet. You can take care of yourself
today--that's why it is a present.<p>I know it's old and it's
overused. It is also true. Stop beating yourself up and get to work to be
ready for surgery. Start your exercise program if you haven't already.
Start taking your vitamins and cutting out sodas. Start thinking about the
clothes in your closet that you can throw out now--the t-shirts with greasy
stains that won't quite come out and the raggedy nighties. Might as well
get rid of those now, huh?<p>The more you do that is positively
directed at your new understanding of your life the better off you will be.
Start the good habits today. If you lose a few pounds before surgery,
great. It's not about losing weight though. It is about being the
healthiest you can be and taking an active part in it.<p>One thing
people often forget about self esteem is that we have to DO something that
is valuable or honorable to earn those good feelings. So start now. It will
make your post-op transition ever so much easier. If you want to see
yourself differently, do something differently.<p>Phoebe Carroll
-135# from a 24 to a 6
— phoebe
October 27, 2002
All of us have experienced failure in the past. Is that what you are
thinking now? That you have failed and now you are going to have to have
surgery to correct it? DON'T think like that. Just think of the success
that you will have that is just around the corner. I beleive that you have
succeeded in making the right choice, and you should be very proud of
yourself for being brave and stong!!
— Jan S.
October 27, 2002
thanks to each of you! I am feeling a little better today. I was just
having it kind of bad for a couple of days there, but now I am BACK on the
right track!! Everything that you all said I think played a part in my
feeling better, so thanks. I really appreciate all of the comments!
Healthier and Happier days to come!
Misty
— poohdotsmom2
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