Question:
fear of losing weight
This is crazy. I really wanted and needed this surgery! I worked hard to get it done! I'm 2.5 mos post op ( aug 23) 50 lbs down. But for some weird reason I'm afraid of losin all the weight. I'm not sabotaging but Ievery time I get on the sCAle and see the weight loss or get into small clothes I get scared. Why?????? Ihavent been thin since I was 5 Is this just fear of the unknown? — Amy G. (posted on November 15, 2002)
November 15, 2002
hiya {{hugs}}
it's natural to fear the unknown and as you said, you've been overweight
since you were 5 so this is a whole new world opening up to you.
i don't know you view on therapy but it would probably be a good idea since
life post op is a rollercoaster of emotions while you adjust to the
"new you" and since this is an entirely new situation for you, it
would be helpful to talk about it with a counselor.
you may also want to find a local wls support group -- studies have shown
that we need 3 years minimum support post op. there are sooo many changes
going on, emotionally and physically, it can be overwhelming!
i facilitate a wls support group...feel free to email me anytime
[email protected]
{{hugs}} kate
open rny 6-14-01
pre op: 268lbs
goal: 135lbs
current: 126lbs
— jkb
November 15, 2002
I have been having a similar problem to yours. I had my surgery 8/7/02 and
I have lost 73 lbs. People are making SUCH a big deal of my weight loss and
saying how great I look and I get sooo embarrased! Before surgery I thought
how great it would be to have people say how great you look, but now that
it is happening, I don't know how to deal with it, and it turns into a
negative experience. I get all flustered and red, and I feel weird! LOL I
am still learning how to deal with it, and it gets better everyday. I hope
the same for you. :o)
— fropunka
November 15, 2002
hi there. i can relate to the original poster and all the others as
well.you go through so many changes both physically and emotionally as
well. and being that its a rather fast process it takes time to absorb it
all and to get used to the changes taking place. a trip to wal mart for me,
is no longer what it used to be,run in get what you need and leave. now
anytime om out, i run into someone that hasnt seen me in a while and people
flip and i feel like im on display. im not complaining at all my any means.
i love the new attention it just takes a bit pf getting used to from the
way things were before. i wish you all the best of luck and congrats to all
of you both post op and pre ops who have their date! :)
— carrie M.
November 16, 2002
If you read my profile, you will read that I had noticed that as the weight
came off I began to feel more and more vulnerable. Most times I had felt
embarrassed if anyone noticed me or looked at me. I also noted that I
realized that my weight was used as a shield from others....I am very shy
and to have that shield go away was terrifying for me. Afterall, what
would replace this if I did not have my food and my large body that noone
would want to come near. It is very scary to let go of that which has been
with us for so long. Our bodies are used as tools against other's and food
becomes our friend, our way of dealing with the fear, hurt, anger,
etc....(No, not all people on this site would agree with this, but I bet
quite a few people could). If you can, just ride out the feelings, you will
adjust, and in the end you will be more in touch with yourself, as well as
having become more confident in yourself!!! You are doing great!!!
— twenc
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