Question:
I'm a husband who needs to be educated on WLS
— jshinsako (posted on February 26, 2006)
February 26, 2006
A good place to start would be to click on "forums" at the top of
the banner then 'surgery types' so you can read about the different ones.
Another good place is to attend your wife's support group meeting if they
have one.
— star .
February 26, 2006
What kinds of things do you need to know? Has your wife had surgery yet?
If you need any help let me know i'm seven and a half months post op down
123 pounds. take care
— jjeanniespets1
February 26, 2006
My husband learned so much going to one of my surgeon's presentations for
people considering WLS. It gave him the information he needed to be the
most supportive person in my life during this journey.
— classite
February 26, 2006
I'm a wife that has experience watching my husband go through the RNY and
now I am currently in the process of having the Lap Band. I NEVER expected
what I was going to see when my husband had the surgery. I've had
c-sections, and just never understood his pain. I guess the best advise I
can give is, 1) Look at your wifes meal plans the night b4 she will be
coming home and make sure to make the jello's, have the beverages on had,
freeze some juice for a variety, and make sure you have what you need at
home for the meals 2) MAKE SURE YOUR WIFE EATS EVEN WHEN SHE SAYS SHE IS
NOT HUNGRY. I literally brought the food to him and sat there and made
sure he ate, she will say she is not hungry, make her eat what the meal
plan says and have it available for her 3) BE PATIENT!! She isn't going to
feel well for awhile, heck my husband is a year + out and still has his
times, but remember this is what "SHE" wanted and support her
with everything you have. If you ever want to talk, I'm here and will help
you anyway I can.
— SandraHeffernan
February 26, 2006
First of all, I commend you for your desire to learn about weight loss
surgery. The best thing you can do is to be supportive of your wife. It
sounds like you've already got that covered. Probably the biggest
difference you will notice, initially, is that she will be very tired. I
remember taking a few steps, then needing to sit down and rest for a while.
So you may have to do things like laundry and cleaning. I remember I would
drop things and not be able to pick them up, so they'd remain on the floor
until someone visited. So you may need to do things like that for her.
Also, please encourage her to get moving. Walk, walk, walk. Take baby
steps. I started out walking to the mailbox. I did that several times a
day. Then the next day, I walked to the neighbor's house. So, please
encourage her to do exactly what her doctor has requested. Also, I know
when I first came home I had problems with smells. It seemed that
everything made me sick. I simply could not stand to smell any food
cooking. So you may need to cook for yourself, and/or your family for a
while. The most important thing is to be supportive, so try to be patient
and understanding, and pay careful attention to the doctor's orders. If you
do so, I'm sure your wife will be happy and healthy and love you for it.
Best wishes for health and happiness always.
— Donna F.
February 26, 2006
My husband went to all my doctor's appointments and to all the support
classes. He has been a wonderful support to me...he makes sure I get my
protien and liquids in every day - he is my greatest cheerleader! It sounds
like you will be like that for your wife too! Best wishes to both of you!
— MonicaCarr
February 26, 2006
Let me also commend your interest in your wife's surgery and journey! The
fact that you are here asking is a big indicator that she will be
successful, because a loving support system is crucial in this journey.
The others have covered it pretty well; my husband had his surgery 18
months after mine, so we've both seen both sides. The first job you will
have is hospital advocate for your wife. Please spend as much time as you
can at her side while she's in the hospital; nurses are notoriously
overworked, and you will likely need to help out by acting as her
call-bell, her advocate and her intern. :) Take a book; she will sleep a
lot. It won't be the most stimulating experience for you, but it will be
one of the most important things you can do. Best of luck to you both.
— Jeanie
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