Question:
depressed: i had my surgery Dec 11 07 i went to my DR.
I have not lost weight for 10 days i have lost 29lbs. everybody is asking how much more . The DR. told me off i told her i lost more weight on Weight Watchers she told me you did't do it right she made me feel so bad . Am i execpting to much . Barbara — barbaramartin (posted on January 31, 2008)
January 30, 2008
I was thinking the same way when I read your post. I think that you are
doing great. I had RNY on 11/5 and have only lost 40lbs. It is
unprofessional that your surgeon should behave in that way. She should be
a source of encouragement. It is very normal to plateau and not lose for
stretches of time...everyone is different. You could always go back to
liquids for a day or 2 to get things moving again. I think I'll give it a
try too. Good Luck. Jeannie
— jimmychrissy1
January 30, 2008
I had lap band on 12/11 and have also lost 29 pounds. I find myself getting
very frustrated. I exercise everyday I still can not lose. I was told that
it took me years to put the weight on and to be patient and keep doing as
your doc says and it will come off. just hang in there the weight will
start comming off.
— willish
January 30, 2008
Hi Barbara, first of all, Congrats to you!! what the heck did she mean your
not doing it right? i would have reported her. she of all people should
know that this was a very major step in your lfe, and should have
encouraged you to keep moving. i am sorry that you encountered with such
bed side manners :( 29 lbs. is great!! and yes, you will have those weeks,
or a month where you feel like your doing nothing. but you hang in there, i
promise you it will get better.. are you exercising? getting plenty of
fluids? im sure you are, just be patient, and it will happen..i too tried
weight watchers, and that didnt work for me. keep your head up, and dont
let her sway you into giving up. remember this is your new tool. and you
will learn how to use it.. i am only 6 1/2 wks. out, and i started at 312
and now i am at 250. my scale seemed broken too at times.. i wish you all
the best of luck sweetie, and please dont let her make you feel like your
doing something wrong.. good luck kim
— kimcrain
January 30, 2008
There is not much information of your website to tell us what surgery you
had. RNY? Lap Band? If you had a Lap Band, you might need a fill. If you
had a RNY then there are times that you are going to stay the same, because
your body is fighting your loss and thinks you are starving it. Hang in
there and stick to the program and it will pay off. I the states our
doctors work for us so they are much more supportative and sensitive to our
needs than you have experenced in Canada. Go to group meeting and met
others that have had the same surgery. They will give you comfort and
support for the weight loss journey. Best of sucess to you.
— William (Bill) wmil
January 30, 2008
I think you are right where you should be.
— Alvernlaw
January 31, 2008
I think your doing great. Your Dr.is awful!!!! Shame on her. I have times
when I don't see any weight coming off, but lose inches. Everyone is
different. Just stick with it. Good luck to you.
— Pamela S.
January 31, 2008
I ALSO HAD SURGERY ON 12-11 AND HAVE LOST 30 TOTAL SINCE SURGERY. I WAS AT
A STANDSTILL FOR ABOUT 8 DAYS AS WELL. DONT WORRY AND DONT LET ANYONE MAKE
YOU FEEL BAD. YOU ARE DOING AWESOME!!!!
— JACKIESMOM
January 31, 2008
Try to keep your chin up.You are doing great.Dont let the doc get you to
down.Pickyour head up and continue using your tool.You will do great.I hope
tomm. is a better day for you.Its not fun being in the dumps.They say
stress and depression can slower your metabalism,so try to keep positive,I
know its hard at times.I get this way also.
— Sandy Hanson
January 31, 2008
Don't get discouraged and don't think about the pounds so much. 29 lbs in
less than 2 months is still amazing. It will start coming off again, don't
ever give up!
— megbucks
January 31, 2008
Hey Barbara,
Sounds like you are on track to me. I lost about 30 lbs the first 4 weeks
after surgery as well. What some gastric bypass clinics don't stress to
their patients or potential patients is that there will be periods
throughout the weight loss process when the weight loss will stall.
Between Thanksgiving and Christmas I was 4 pounds from losing a hundred and
I sat at 196 pounds for almost two months -- the thing is Barbara -- DON'T
GET DISCOURAGED OR ANXIOUS. Keep working your program, exercising, fluids,
whatever it is you're doing. We have a tendency to want to move too fast,
to get back to eating at least half way normal. Our documentation said we
could have a salad like after 12 weeks -- I waited an extra week before I
had a salad -- and almost a year out -- I'm still somewhat cautious about
what I eat. I figured it would be ok to eat some jambalaya -- yep -- with
rice -- then the chicken noodle soup looked so good the next day -- I had
some of that. Well mistake -- can we say -- constipation -- so be careful
of your food choices and just take your time with the weight loss. After
all, we didn't gain the weight in 30 days -- we did this over a few decades
-- now we have been blessed with the tool to lose weight and keep it off.
Keep doing what you're doing. People will ask how much more -- just tell
them when your body stops. People who have NEVER spoken to you will want
to know what you did to lose the weight and of course it's up to you
whether or not you reveal. I start off by telling people I cheated -- I
had the surgery. It's amazing how many negative myths and horror stories
people have heard and to see a successful one without having had any
complications -- they are quite surprised.
So STAY POSITIVE and keep working out and fluids and you'll be okay.
— the7thdean
January 31, 2008
HEY BARBRA,
YOU ARE DOING MARVULUS DARING JUST MARVORALUS.!!!!!WE ALL GO THRU
PLAETUES.IT'S OUR BODY TRYING TO PLAY CATCH UP!!!I LOOKED YOU UP NOTHING
THERE????LET US KNOW SOMETHING ABOUT YOU.SO NOW THROW THOSE SHOULDERS BACK
HEAD HIGH AND MAKE A LIAR OUT OF THAT SNOBBY DR!!!!!!I'M 6 MO OUT.LOST39
BEFORE SURGERY.WAS311 NOW 192SO I LOST 80 AFTER.I THINK YOUR RIGHT ON
SCHEDUCLE.GOING TO ADD YOU TO MY FRIENDS LIST.PLEASE KEEP IN TOUCH.WE ALL
NEED FRIENDS NOW& THEN.YOUR LFE IS ABOUT TO MAKE ALOT OF MAJOR
CHANGES.GOOD LUCK,AND KEEP YOUR CHIN UP.
AFA
LEHIGH
— lehigh
January 31, 2008
this thing sent my post before I was done! Anyhow, it's east to obesess
about numbers and that really messes us up. My Dr, is happy with my
results and so am I. Try to relax, and try to focus on the other things
like eating right, exercise, drinking water (one of my downfalls) and
feeling better. The weight will come off and you're going to look at
yourself in a year from now and wonder how that happened!
— Debra R.
January 31, 2008
Barbara, thanks for writing. I am trying to understand your question, but
I will be honest in saying I am a little confused (I think). You are
almost 8 weeks out and have lost 30 pounds? That is not bad at all. It
sounds like you had a fight with your surgeon. You have to not depend on
results you "think" you might get. Barbara, be thankful for
every day, get out and walk, drink water and watch what you eat very
carefully, and your body will respond. You choose depression in this case.
Ok the Doctor has a horrible bedside manner, you need encouragement from a
support group or another source. You just do right, and look for a place
to give you some encouragement. Some wls patients actually re-join weight
watchers to get the nutrition training and support. Surgeons are not very
noted for that. Things were said between you two, I say forgive them for
being insensitive, and keep fighting for your weight loss. Depression will
only stall your success and tear you apart. You can choose to not let
other peoples statements affect you. It doesn't matter what
"they" think as long as you are doing right. Diet, exercise,
water. That is your goal. Keep up the good work, stay focused, and you
will do well. Patricia P.
— Patricia P
February 1, 2008
Hi Barbara! I couldn't agree more with everyone else, you are doing
AWESOME! You have accomplished so much in such a short period of time,
slow down and enjoy it...your body is going through alot of adjusting, and
so is your mind, and don't forget the hormones that are released as you
lose weight (we store them in our fat)...so it will be up and down...but
believe me if you mean enough to yourself to have taken such a caring step
in your life, you are already a success and the rest will come. I thought
that I was not losing fast enough and I thought that when I stalled that it
was over and I would fail, but you know what, after a year and a half I was
down about 170lbs. I am now staying around 170-175 and I am 4yrs and 3mths
out. Please be kind to yourself and come here for encouragement. Your
journey is just beginning. Please keep us posted on how you are feeling.
I'm going to add you as a friend also. Have a more peaceful day!
Lisa lap/rny 10-23-03 340+/173/170 -170lbs and at goal
— Lisa H.
February 1, 2008
Your doing great I don't think your doc is being realistic. I would either
get her on track or request another doc. We need all the support we can
get when having this surgery and your doc should be #1 on the side of
success.
Joni
— jonicorona
February 1, 2008
i had the same experience with my surgeon. when i went to my 4 month check
up i had only lost 59lbs. and he said i should have lost a lot more, he
made me feel veryyyyyy bad. but you know what don't let them get you down,
it will work i'm down 82 lbs now, sure i wish it was more but i think it
might be better comeing off slow.
— Theresa R.
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