Skinny Shaming?

I'm like you - I tend to assume that people are not trying to be mean when they say things.  As for talking about me behind my back, I can't assume that.  There have been too many cases where others have made critical comments to my face with her in the room that were based on private conversations.  The latest?  I've been putting feelers out for buying a house up here, and told her how shocked I was at the amount I pre-qualified for (much more than I thought).  The very next day her daughter (25 years old with a 6 year old, both of whom live with my brother and SIL) announced that I needed to buy a townhouse for her to live in and she would pay me rent.  I told her that I would to help out, but I couldn't afford to do that AND buy myself a house too.  She said "oh yes you can".  

And my SIL nodded her head and said that I needed to make up my mind fast because she wants her kid to move out!  Some nerve, right?

I've been dealing with her crap for so many years it just rolls off me now.  I'm very much a "kill 'em with kindness" kind of girl, and I'll continue to be so.  But I won't let that turn into a people pleaser kind of girl.  

Holy crap!! That is unbelievable. Why is it your job to support their child and grandchild? Wow!

Because I make more money and I'm single.  It's just the way they think.  I'm used to it.

She sounds jealous and petty as a result :(

Right!

I sure don't blame you for being miffed.  We all have to be extra sensitive around family and friends who are still obese who have not come to terms with our change.  So just smile and keep crossing those skinny legs!!!!!    diane

I'm smiling!  And dancing!  

Maybe she was  hoping that you'd offer her some of the old clothes you've shrunk out of; presumably pre surgery you had clothes that were bigger than an 8!

I did think of that, but since I move here from Texas every year, clothes and all, she had to know I wouldn't bother to lug my old stuff with me in my car!

Nope, she's being a jealous b*tch.  I've dealt with that some and it's too bad for those people that they can't just understand that your success or failure has nothing to do with them.  People are so wrapped up in blaming others for their lot in life.

Cross your legs and wear your skinny clothes with pride.  You worked hard and it's been a battle!